The big question:

That question often brings doubt and low self-esteem, which is why I decided to offer you a portrait of the reality of moms. The reality that I describe in these sentences comes from many secrets that I gathered from moms met in focus groups, workshops, and conferences.

A word of caution: of course, all experiences are not listed, and you may have a different point of view! However, rest assured that you’re never alone.

What moms want the most

They want to be good moms, which means meeting the physical and emotional needs of their children. And they want to achieve all that in a state of love, patience, and permanent happiness!

What moms want to achieve

They want to successfully implement many of the recommendations made by experts, sometimes at the expense of their own sense of competence.

What moms fear the most

They are afraid that their choices, their actions and their way of being a mom could harm their children.

What moms seek

Mothers are looking for a caring and respectful ear to be able to talk about their experience and somehow feel relieved.

What moms have difficulty accepting

It's hard to accept the physical changes caused by pregnancy, childbirth, and breastfeeding. They are struggling to see themselves as beautiful and desirable!

What frustrates moms

Getting unrequested advice.

What gets in the way of a moms fulfillment

The belief that to neglect and sacrifice herself is proof of her love for her children.

What moms wish for

They wish that their spouse, friends, and family would understand what they are going through and what they need, without having to say it out loud!

What saddens moms

Realizing that they are not always the moms they wanted to be.

What comforts moms

Knowing that they are not the only ones who struggle with motherhood.

What moms believe

They believe (and they’re wrong!) that other moms are constantly fulfilled and always find it easy.

What is a moms biggest challenge

The biggest challenge for moms is to make peace with the disappointments and changes they are experiencing. Mourning natural childbirth. Mourning instant attachment to their baby. Mourning breastfeeding. Mourning recklessness. Mourning their previous life, etc.

What moms learn through motherhood

They discover their strengths and limitations. They develop their sense of commitment and gain maturity.

What moms think of maternity leave

It’s no break at all! And they would love their spouse to understand everything that needs to be done in a day with a baby.

What moms think of their sex life

They often see sex as one more task to take care of. It’s just another selfless act that is adding up to the fatigue!

What causes conflicts between moms and dads

Sharing household tasks, involvement, and discipline.

What motivates moms to act as they do

They act according to their values and their definitions of what makes them a good mom. Each mom has her own criteria to evaluate her work.

What moms don’t always realize

That beyond fatigue and hormonal changes, the intensity of the emotions felt since they have been moms affects the way they adapt to their new role.

What moms could benefit from

Thinking of themselves as their best friend. Making better use of compassion and tolerance towards themselves instead of blaming and judging their own actions.

What moms tend to forget

They forget that their personality and character traits are still there even if they have become moms. They help determine the type of mom they are, which is a great one!

The greatest illusion of moms

Believing that motherhood is a project like any other where it is possible to plan and organize things according to their wishes.

What moms mix up

They confuse the love they have for their child and the role of a mom. That's why they often confide in saying, "I love my child, but..." Loving your child and loving the requirements of motherhood are two very different things. Acknowledging that being a mom is demanding does not affect the love of a mom for her child.

What moms should celebrate

On each one of their child’s birthdays, moms should also celebrate their progress and be very proud of themselves!

What moms dread

They are afraid to be judged as bad moms or as inadequate. Still, they compare and judge themselves harshly!

What moms are struggling to forgive

Moments of impatience with their children.

What moms neglect

They neglect their emotional well-being by being afraid of talking about the challenges they face! They also trivialize and rationalize their feelings.

The biggest challenge of moms

Continuing to exist as people by honoring their own needs and desires.

The biggest dream of moms

Moms want their children to become accomplished and confident adults!

The pride of moms

Their children.

What moms should remember

They should remember that they are still learning and will make mistakes, but they can fix them.

What moms need

They need to take time to talk about their experiences, to soothe and reassure themselves in order to give the best of themselves.

What I know about moms

They feel reassured, guided, accompanied and recognized when they have genuine interactions with other moms! If you want to experience this, visit my website for more information about focus groups, workshops, and conferences.

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