When you look at your “lover”, who do you see? The man of your life or the father of your children?
“I have always adored children and have always wanted a big family. When I met my boyfriend, we brought up the subject quite early on to make sure that we wanted the same things. After dating for only five months, I got a + sign on my pregnancy test. After thinking about it, we happily decided to keep our little surprise baby. My boyfriend may or may not remain the man of my life forever (who can predict the future?), but he will always be the father of my child. ”
Marie, Mamanpourlavie.com forum
“Eight years ago, I saw my spouse as a simple flirt, a purely physical attraction and nothing more. I would never have imagined that he would become the father of my children. As time passed and our passion kept growing, he became the man of my life. He is nothing less than wonderful. I love and respect him a great deal. He has his flaws that sometimes get the best of me, but his qualities always win me over. One day, we decided to have a family. We felt ready and knew that giving life to a child would be a wonderful gift for our couple. When our daughter was born, our couple became even stronger. Two years later, here I am, pregnant for the second time. He is my lover, my friend, the man of my life and an amazing dad to my daughter; he is all of that and I could not have found a better man.”
Mélanie, Mamanpourlavie.com forum
“My husband is first and foremost the man of my life. It was love at first sight and we were talking babies before we even started dating officially! I guess we just had to know if the other wanted children before starting a relationship. However, we both agreed that a couple has to be in love in order for the family to be a loving one. We would do everything in our power to remain in love for the rest of our lives. Wanting to show each other that we were ready to spend the rest of our lives together, we decided to get married last summer, when I was 5 months pregnant. It was important for us to be linked by marriage before starting a family. Now that little Victor is here, my man will forever be the father of my son. Yet, he still remains the man of my life before all else, and that is what makes him the best father in the world!
Mother of Victor, Mamanpourlavie.com forum
“My husband is without a doubt the man of my life. He is the most considerate man and is constantly helping me with our daughter. He really takes care of both of us. I knew from the start that he would be a great father (he wanted kids before I did), and he always had a way with kids. I don’t regret a single moment of the 9 years we have spent together and sincerely wish that our love will last forever. When you decide to have children with someone, it’s important to know if he is the man of your life and if he will always be there to support you. Your couple has to be rock solid when you start a family. Personally, I had no doubt about my man. He is an extraordinary lover and father!”
Mels, Mamanpourlavie.com forum
“He was a teenage love that became a very serious relationship. He was becoming the man of my life more and more every day! He is now my husband and the kindest father to our little girl and future children. He is and always will be the father of Laury and he is the man with whom I share a wonderful life, filled with love!”
Mother of Laury, Mamanpourlavie.com forum
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You are not born a father, You become one
In their twenties, many men haven’t yet discovered their paternal instincts, just like many women in fact! Some men – and women - have to succeed in other areas of their lives before starting a family. The key is not to find the absolute perfect man, but rather the man who shares your vision of life. Remember, men also search for an accomplished woman to be the woman of their life... with or without children!
If the maternal instinct doesn’t exist, then the paternal instinct doesn’t exist either. However, paternal involvement does exist! Being a father is not a supporting role based on preconceived ideas of strict education and supreme authority. The father no longer evolves in the mother’s shadow. Fathers play a fundamental role in their children’s development and blossoming. Now that mothers have regained their professional lives, even with children, it has given fathers the chance to really get involved in their children’s lives. Both parents must share a common vision of what family life should be like. Nowadays, fathers are much more involved, there is no doubt about it, and it certainly is for the better.