Too often, sexuality equals genitalia, and loving caresses mechanically lead to penetration. Yet, sexuality is so much more than that. Desire is essential to a fulfilling sexual life. Desire is not only a question of hormones and body stimulation; it has to start long before getting into bed. To invigorate desire, you must feel loved and appreciated. Complicity is key. As you can see, communication is very important when it comes to intimacy.
Redefining sexuality
Genitalia can also become less satisfying. The couple needs to diversify their sexuality to make it fulfilling. With a body or mind that is sometimes less available to penetration, it’s important to explore new avenues. It’s time to caress languorously without expecting penetration, rub and massage your partner, talk sensually and cuddle. More than ever, romance should take center stage. Why not have a special candlelit dinner followed by a bubble bath? Or write a poem and give flowers? Even though you are often overwhelmed by the arrival of a new child and it is difficult to find the time and energy to rekindle your relationship, know that an honest and empathetic communication can greatly help reduce tensions and increase patience.
Parenthood is by far the best adventure you will embark on. It allows you to surpass yourself and feel a boundless amount of love. It’s a rite of passage, a journey for which couples are not always well prepared for. However, once you find a new balance, your couple becomes more united than ever and is able blossom.
