Consulting a sexologist

I have decided, now, what do I do?

Several options are available. If you are lucky enough to know someone who already consulted and who liked their sex therapist, you can ask for contact information. That way, you will have a trusted resource. Many websites can help you find local sex therapists, such as the Association des Sexologues du Québec (ASQ). You can search by name or by city. Make sure that the person you choose has a master’s degree in clinical sexology (counselling). The ASQ makes sure that all of its members graduated. Since personal finances can be an issue for many, some universities, like UQAM, have sexology clinics where you can consult supervised interns. If you do, you will help train future sex therapists while saving some money.

Starting a therapy is a step towards change. Don’t be surprised if your therapist asks you questions about things that are not related to your problem. You are not different in your sexuality and in your day-to-day life. You have the same weaknesses and the same defense mechanisms. Therefore, it is normal to talk about your everyday life. Moreover, contrary to popular belief, the therapist doesn’t just teach sexual techniques. In fact, it is not always necessary. Instead, they will make you think about your situation to allow you to understand what you are going through and to bring necessary changes to your usual ways. It is not always easy to seek help. However, you must remember that the more you wait, the longer it may take to solve the problem. Once the results will begin to show, you will be proud of the courage it took to undertake this process.

Véronique Boisvert
Clinical sexologist, psychotherapist, doula

Veronique Boisvert holds a BA and an MA in sexology. She works  in a private practice as a clinical sexologist and psychotherapist to treat marital and sexual difficulties. As shehas always been passionate about the perinatal field, she also followed a doula training and  now gives a prenatal class, assists parents during the delivery and offers them support  after. Her professional experience and research has led her to specialize in postpartum disorders. That's what inspired her to write the book  Bien vivre ma période postnatale : prévenir les difficultés et devenir une maman heureuse (meaning “Living my postpartum period well: preventing problems and becoming a happy mom”). You can find more information about her practice and clinic on her website (in French only).

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