Objects of desire…
Breasts carry a lot of meaning, and obviously femininity. They are also easily associated with various fantasies and are objects of desire and seduction. They are part of our love games and often stimulate sexual appetite. Let’s be honest, our breasts hold a stunning erotic power. And there’s no need to expose them to arouse men. A plunging neckline, a fitted shirt or a slightly indented camisole, and voila, our lovers see us in a completely different light!
Breasts are therefore the basis of sexual pleasure ... as a pair. Indeed, if men love plunging necklines, we must admit that many women love to have their breasts caressed and bitten during sex. When they’re stimulated, breasts become very expressive. The breast muscles contract and blood rushes to the nipples. They harden and stand erect. Breasts are definitely a very erogenous zone for women, in addition to being an object of desire for men.
However, during pregancy and breastfeeding, the breats’ role changes. From objects of desire, they become “tools providing food” to the baby. How do we live with that change? Not a single couple experiences it in the same way! Sometimes, pregnancy and breastfeeding help us feel more beautiful and more feminine, while having a positive impact on our libido. Sometimes, during this transitional period when breasts go back to their primary use – feeding the little ones - the couple avoids sex games involving the breasts.
Difficult? For some, yes, but for others, it’s only a pause. Honest discussions between the spouses help improve the situation. Often times, we as women need a bit of time to get reacquainted with our breasts. They’re not like they used to be. They’re soft, and sometimes a little distorted. They sag... In short, we really don’t find them attractive at all. Breastfeeding and our breasts’ physical changes can influence our sexuality. It’s up to us to bring up the subject with our partner to find a sexuality that is comfortable and fulfilling for both.
Your opinion!
These comments were taken from Motherforlife.com’s Facebook page and show the extent and variety of feelings women have about their breasts.
« I didn’t have any difficulty going from object of desire to « milk producer ». It’s going back to the object of desire later on that I found difficult. Especially since my breasts looked nothing like they used to… if you know what I mean.»
Marie-Michèle
« They’re running away from me, and I don’t like it ! From beautiful to flabby… Although I have to say that they doubled in size during my pregnancy, so I guess it’s normal. They’re still beautiful, but their shapeless without a good bra! Breatfeefing and sexuality are two very different things for me! »
Rebecca
« I don’t like them at all! I know, I should see the beauty of the mother who has breastfed, but I just can’t. When I look at them, I sigh! »
Josée
« No problem at all! When it’s time to breastfeed, it’s time to breastfeed. And when it’s time for pleasure, it’s time for pleasure!. I don’t find find pleasurable, since they’re flabby and covered with stretch marks. But my boyfriend loves them! I would like to have them done, but he doesn’t want me to. Unless, of course, they’re preventing me from being happy. »
Marie-Josée
« I’m currently breastfeeding and I love it. But I now find it difficult to see my breasts as objects of desire. I have this wall in front of me. I just see them differently.»
Maryleen
« I’ve been breastfeeding for a year and my breasts are a source of comfort for baby and a diet that I would qualify as... magical! Breastfeeding has finally made my breasts useful! Because before, they weren’t an erogenous zone for me. They finally have serve a purpose and my baby is fully taking advantage of it! And the fact that my body can produce milk makes me feel powerful and strong! »
Laurence
« Breasts are not only a source of desire, they’re also a necessity for our children. I think it’s important to be able need to make that difference. »
Kathy
« I find it a bit hard to consider them for anything other than breastfeeding. Maybe once I stop breastfeeding, it will come back. I'm not worried. »
Kim
« I’ve been breastfeeding for 4 months and I love it. It's rewarding and it gives me a very special and privileged contact with my daughter. However, although my boyfriend is really for breastfeeding, he also finds it really difficult because I no longer see my breasts as objects of desire. He loves my breasts and it saddens him, but I can’t help it. It’s as if right now, they’re only for my daughter and I don’t really want my boyfriend to touch them. I hope it will return to normal when I stop breastfeeding. »
Mélanie
Big or small, they’re mine!
There are as many different breasts as there are hairstyles. We sometimes want to change them, tone them or increase their size, but deep down, would it really make us happier? It’s hard to say.
Perfect objects desired!
"Every year, about 8,000 women in Quebec pay to have their dream breasts. A decision taken at their own risk, despite the ban of silicone implants. For new prostheses continue to cause concern. And while we're playing Russian roulette with women’s health, this global market is thriving!"
In North America, breast augmentation is the second largest cosmetic surgery, just behind liposuction. A growing global market generating more than 500 million dollars.
Source : Conseil du statut de la femme
Over the years - and pregnancies - our breasts change. Their appearance often takes a hit. Pregnancies, weight gain, breastfeeding, and weight loss all have an impact on the appearance of our breasts. To be proud of our breasts without going under the knife, it’s sometimes as easy as choosing the right bra and opting for flattering clothes and necklines.
Men prefer big breasts?
Fact or myth? More a question of taste! But it goes without saying that a shapely bust attracts more attention than a discreet one. An American researcher has studied the issue. His findings are astonishing.
Anthropologist Frank Marlowe, from Harvard University, has published a study on the subject. His hypothesis is that men see large breasts as a sign of good health, if they’re firm and big. Men see breasts and shapely hips as clear indicators that a woman is fertile, as her hormones have shaped the body of a potential mother. The man would instinctively react as a future father when he sees a beautiful woman, just as this woman would be impressed by a handsome man with broad shoulders and an athletic body. Source : Doctissimo
But wouldn’t the truth be that men like breasts… in general, no matter how they look? It’s hard to say. One at least suspects that breasts are seen as a sign of fertility, as had assumed Leonard Shlain, author of the book Sex, Time and Power: How Women's Sexuality Shaped Juman Evolution. His hypothesis was that, evolving from quadrupeds to bipeds, our buttocks have become less visible, unlike breasts that are now at eye level.
