For your well-being and your relationship
Moms sometimes tend to forget that before becoming a mother, they were half of a couple, and during this period of big changes, they were, are and will always be a woman first. Our kids have regular needs that need to be met, and so do us moms, who have this tendency to forget about ourselves a little too often.
While going on vacation without the kids might seem scary because we are proud of our new identity as a mom, it can sometimes be beneficial for us to take time to unwind and most importantly, to concentrate on our relationship. Remember that a rested and happy mom will be in better shape to take care of her family's needs, and if you think going away is what you need to get your groove back, it's a perfectly suitable option to consider. The important thing is that you are well prepared before departure to avoid unnecessary worries that may spoil your trip.
Choose people you trust to babysit
Letting other people take care of your kids requires a lot of trust, and if you're not comfortable leaving them behind, you will worry during your trip. It's important to choose someone you trust, like grandparents, extended family or close friends who respect your values.
If you know your kids are in a safe environment surrounded by people you trust, you'll be able to fully relax and appreciate your vacation. And remember, the kids are on a vacation too, as they will benefit from new interactions with different people that will allow them to create bonds with other adults and go through adventures they'll be glad to share with you!
How to be well prepared?
The best thing you can do to prevent worrying during your trip is to adequately prepare for any eventuality. If your child is old enough to understand, it's always a good idea to let them know about your trip in advance so they have time to get used to what is coming. You also have to think about the people who will be caring for your kids and what they need to know; make a detailed plan that you can give them, so they know what to do in case of an emergency or just have a clear idea of your kid's routine. Here are some tips to help you get ready:
- Make a detailed schedule of your kid's daily routine so his or her caregivers can refer to it quickly. Don't forget to include all emergency details and necessary documents.
- If possible, have your kids looked after in their own home, as this reduces the number of changes they have to go through.
- If your child is older, you can give them a calendar with an X marking the day you leave and the day you return. Ask them to X-out every day in between while you are gone. This exercise helps them visualize when you will be back and feel more reassured.
- Prepare some of your kid’s favorites: books, movies, games, meals, and snacks. Everything that is familiar will be reassuring for children.