All parents want to be good role models for their children and share values and beliefs that will help them build a positive life. We want them to be healthy, safe, educated and fulfilled both academically and socially. We also want to implement processes that will meet their needs and allow us to develop a healthy relationship with them and live a happier life. This article was written with harmony in mind and that is why we share simple and effective “love” tips that will truly make a difference for your family.
We must admit that our “hyperactive” society doesn’t make things easier! Our busy life does not allow us to spend as much time with our children or to be devoted to our emotional bond as much as we would like. In general, we are submerged in a world where performance and competition encourage us to allocate most of our time to professional activities. Without even realizing, we end up dealing with our complex schedules and our daily races. This situation leads to a state of stress and fatigue that does not leave much time to enjoy the presence of our children.
Undoubtedly, most of us lack mental rest and don’t take enough time to ponder on the affective and psychological legacy that we want for our children.
Knowing this, it seems obvious that we, parents, sometimes need a little help to discover new and faster ways to implement, in a delicate and constant process, a state of harmony in our relationship with our children and family.
It is important to listen to your child and to know how to intervene correctly with him to develop a healthy and balanced sense of bonding, safety and confidence, in order to develop our children’s psychological, affective, cognitive, social and spiritual skills.
It is also important to understand that several psychological and physical issues occur in children without any apparent cause. By reflex, we look for medical causes, trying to find the medication or treatment that would solve this problem, while in many cases; we are facing an affective issue. To name a few, let’s mention the difficulty to fall asleep, eczema and other skin diseases, fits of anger, nervous tics, behavioural and learning disorders, constipation, bed-wetting and isolation. These manifestations truly have physiological effects but they often stem from affective and psychological conflicts such as, for example, parental control and authority, overprotection, parental unresolved problems (anger, anxiety…), affective negligence and so forth.
Show your love!
To achieve our goal of developing a relationship based on love, collaboration, complicity, respect and harmony with our child, several “recipes” and “therapies” are available.
Personally, my way of intervening with your children and mine is through neurolinguistic programming (NLP), the loving communication!
It consists in listening, observing and understanding the feelings and behaviours of our children that can make a difference in the relationship we establish with them. Through words, screams, silences, faces, body movements, behaviours that are acceptable or not, our children are trying to communicate in their own way, depending on their stage of development, to help us understand their state of mind.
What it actually means is that our love should be expressed by putting our children first in our lives and devoting the time that they need with us, parents, to observe and become adults. By becoming parents, we have a responsibility to comply with their basic needs including love and emotional security. Although our schedules are loaded, we need to organize our lives accordingly to assume this responsibility. This is the best proof of love that we can give our children.