Don’t assume that your partner knows or understands what you’re thinking and feeling. He is probably going through many emotions as well, and it would be a good thing to ask him how he feels, as long as you are ready to listen to what he has to say. Some men feel rejected and are jealous over the attention given to the baby. Even if men don’t have to go through all the physical and hormonal changes, they have to adapt to this new reality and it’s normal for them to have feelings too.
Once you have spoken about your lack of libido, you could speak about your and his desires (emotional and sexual). When your desires have been established, negotiate a situation where you will both be pleased. Choose the right moment to talk about your concerns, which means, not in the middle of an argument. People are more receptive when they are less emotional.
The main goal is to create a new environment where everyone feels loved and respected.
