Health

The little imaginary invalids

Small ailments are common among children and it is sometimes difficult as parents to separate the real physical pain from the little "imaginary diseases".

Who has never seen his child refuse to go to daycare or to Aunt Simone under the pretext that he has a stomachache? Who has never put a bandage on an invisible boo-boo to reassure their little girl?

Real or fake?     

Did you know that stomachache is the main cause of medical consultation in young children? However, in nearly 90% of cases, it is not caused by a physical problem. It is therefore important to know – for the 10% of actual physical causes – that when the stomach pains are part of a major problem, they are usually accompanied by other symptoms: fever, vomiting, diarrhea, loss of appetite or weight, drowsiness, etc. These ailments, of course, require medical attention.

Other children do what is called "somatization, which means that a psychological discomfort or trauma will result in real physical symptoms: eczema, asthma, diarrhea, etc. In all these cases, it is important to consult your family doctor who will recommend you to the appropriate specialist.

When your child tells you that something’s hurting without apparent symptoms, you must understand that most of the time, he’s trying to find a way to express his fear, his anxiety, his pain. Or he wants to get attention because he finds that the little ailments generate sympathy and bring them an exclusive moment of solace from adults.

Identifying the cause of the discomfort

For situations where a health problem is not in question, here are some hints to help you identify the source of your child’s discomfort:

  • Has it been happening for a long time, or only a few weeks?
  • Did something important happen in his life, whether at home, daycare or school (new teacher, moving, arrival of a baby sister, divorce, death of a pet, etc.)?
  • How does your child react when you pay attention to him?
  • Does the boo-boo disappear temporarily or does the condition remain the same?
What to do?

If, in the light of what you found, you are reassured that your child has no physical discomfort, here are some practical tips for the little imaginary diseases tested by parents like you and me:

Adèle often has a headache… until we tell her ‘Okay then, let’s go to bed.’ And suddenly, the pain goes away! It happens more often when she hears us say that we have a headache. In the following days, Miss Theatre will inevitably tell us that she has the exact same pain as we did a few days before , says Nadine, mother of a 5-year-old girl.

Last year, the school called me a few times to ask me to go pick up my son, who had suddenly caught ‘the gastro disease’, as he called it. As we got closer to home, he would start to bounce around and feel better. But as soon as we went in the house, I still forced him to put his pajamas on and go to bed.”  Marie-Claude, mother of Zackary, 7-years-old.

In our home, we have a lot of boo-boos and what we call compassion ailments. If I’m putting a bandage on Victoria’s skinned knee, Annabelle will come to see me and show me her invisible boo-boo. A kiss on her imaginary boo-boo, a Dora sticker, and everything goes away!” Véronique, mother of Annabelle and Victoria, 2 1/2 years old.

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