Trust is key
Autonomy means a lot more than simply growing up. It’s also having the self-confidence to do certain things and become independent, the ability to act and think for yourself. By becoming autonomous, and thus being more detached from his parents, the child develops as well his self-esteem by creating a stable and rich inner life that will help him prevent boredom and get rid of his dependence to others.
By helping your little one develop his autonomy, you are showing him that you trust him, and that you are proud of his accomplishments, It also means letting him exercise his freedom while protecting – but not overprotecting – him. Parents often tend to do things for their children in order to help them, to hurry things up, or because they are under the misconception that their child will not be able to accomplish the task alone. How many times have you tied your child’s shoelaces or hung up his coat in the closet without asking your child to do it? The most common reason given by parents is that it goes faster! It certainly does, but by doing everything yourself, you are not encouraging your child to take initiative. And most of all, you are discouraging him from trying little challenges that he could most likely handle.