3. Reflect the reality
Do not tell yourself stories (“With me, it will be different”), take the negative signals into account (emotions, sensations, impressions), dare to ask direct questions (“Are you divorced?”) in order to be part of an open approach that deals with reality, not fantasies.
4. Define your project
Three questions need to be worked on, in writing: - What moved me (positively) in my previous relationships? – What type of project do I want to share (start a family, change my lifestyle, preserve my territory)? –Why do I want a relationship? (Because I feel ready to love again, because I enjoy life as a couple).
5. Meeting someone nice… for you
Does your partner want to date or build? Are they really available? What are their motives? For what reasons did their previous relationships fail? What is their ideal project of living with someone? All indicators to know and that could inform your thinking.