Reward for the right reasons!
Other than the fact that children are rewarded by the fact that we repeat, a child often gets a lot more attention when he doesn’t listen and doesn’t cooperate than when he does. The need for attention is essential for a child. He prefers to receive a bad attention from his parents than none at all. When you positively emphasize on you child’s collaboration, when you tell him that you appreciate his smile in the morning, the fact that he stays sit all along dinner, his help when you clean up, the way he welcomes you nicely when you pick him up, etc. his need for attention will be fulfilled in a pleasant way, for you and for him.
The child who repeatedly seeks your attention in an aggravating manner has one or many unfulfilled needs. Most often, he tries to fulfill his need for love and attention. A child who feels loved, important and valued wants to collaborate and to be part of a team with his parents, just like an employee whose boss regularly recognizes his merit and makes sure that he feels valued and important.
If you give to your children all the pleasant and positive attention that they need, they will stop being unpleasant to seek your negative attention.