Nathalie
Traps and food for thought
It is important to reflect on the reasons for sleeping in different rooms… or in the same bed for that matter. Just because history has it that couples sleep in the same bed, it doesn’t mean that it’s the right situation for you. If you sleep in two different rooms because you can’t stand each other anymore, that's another story.
Many claim that sleeping apart doesn't stop them from having a great sex life; on the contrary, it only accentuates their desire! Chealsea is convinced that she has a bigger sexual appetite since she and her husband have been sleeping in different rooms. “Not only do I feel more rested and in better physical shape, but I want to be with him and cuddle when we’ve been apart for a few nights”.
The daily routine that we blame for a lower sexual desire, the automatic things we do over time, the normal variations in the desire to be together and the sexual expectations that are always higher for one partner than the other are all reasons to sleep in different beds. The idea is not to grow apart, but to better rediscover ourselves!
According to the National Association of Home Builders (NAHB), homes with two master bedrooms are a growing phenomeno. They expect 50% of all high-end homes to have two master bedrooms ten years from now!
Benefits
- You sleep better.
- Your spouse’s little habits don't get on your nerves as much.
- It stimulates your sexual desire for your spouse. You can set up little rendezvous like when you started dating!
Traps
- You become roommates and friends more than lovers.
- You create a bigger wall between the two of you.
- You accept the situation but it's making you unhappy.
Like with any other situation in a relationship, everything always comes back to communication, respect of each other’s needs and the benefits of giving the other person the space he/she needs to be fulfilled!
Do you sleep in two different bedrooms? Why? How? Is it working for you or not? Write to us and tell us your story!
