The question keeps coming back to you and you even discussed this with your spouse. Should we seek professional help to solve this problem that our family is facing? Yet, it seems as if you can’t make the move and wonder if it is truly necessary to consult.
We asked two psychologists to give us advice and explain the process and usefulness of family therapy.
When should we consult?
Because it is usually harder to make this decision when the children are concerned than when it is a couple’s issue, Stephanie Léonard tells us the signs that should convince parents to consult when their child seems unhappy or preoccupied.
“When you notice significant changes in his behaviour, for example if he no longer wants to play with his friends, if he often complains of stomach pain, if he does not want to go to school anymore, if he has difficulty falling asleep at night”.
Elements to keep an eye out for
- His general behaviour is not the same.
- His social life changed drastically.
- His eating habits changes (he has less appetite)
- His sleep is disrupted.
- He refuses to do what he used to do for no apparent reason (school, extracurricular activities, hobbies, etc.)
- He seems angrier, withdrawn.
- It seems more difficult to manage small sources of stress.
Obviously, it is better to discuss with your child first when these changes occur and Dr Leonard strongly suggests validating the information with the teacher or daycare worker because they spend a lot of time with your child and can give you another perspective n the situation.
How to find a psychologist?
You came to the conclusion that your personal resources are not sufficient? The best way to find a good psychologist is to consult l’Ordre des psychologues du Québec, via its website or by phone. This way, you will be sure to contact an accredited professional and the reference system elaborated by the order will help you find the appropriate specialist based on certain criteria such as the location, therapeutic approach (psychoanalytic, cognitive, behavioural) and specialization (eating disorders, anxiety, grief, depression, etc.)
Families who do not have sufficient financial resources to consult a private therapist can contact CLSC, clinics and hospitals in their area.
“We can also get counselling at much lower costs with university students, for example. They are always supervised by a professional psychologists and rates are almost two times lower”, says Dr. Léonard.
How much does it cost?
The hourly rate of psychologists is between $85 and $125 and a session lasts between one hour and one hour and a half. Some insurance plans cover some or all of these costs. It is worthwhile to ask about your coverage.