A few tips and tricks
- Take the time to listen to yourself and take all the time you need in order for your desire to come back. Don’t pressure yourself.
- Gradually make place in your daily life for tender moments with your spouse, without necessarily having sex. A moment just to be together and reconnect.
- Ask someone you trust to babysit your little one, and have a date with your spouse… just like before you became parents !
- Talk with your spouse about your needs, expectations and frustrations towards sexuality, and express yourself if the desire is simply not there.
References
- Canadian Federation for Sexual Health
- Abdel- Baki, Amal et Marie-Josée, Poulin (2004). Du désir d’enfant à la réalisation de l’enfantement. II. Perspectives psychodynamiques du vécu normal durant la grossesse et l’accouchement. Psychothérapie, 2 vol.41, p.11-16.
- Deans, Anne (2004). Votre grossesse, Marabout, Paris, p.392.
- St-Cerny, Anne (1997). Sexualité pendant la grossesse et après l’accouchement, naissance Renaissance Regroupement Québécois, Fédération du Québec pour le planning des naissances, SL., p.23.
By Nadia Rioux, intern in sexology, mother of 4 year-old Emy.